Friday, August 10, 2012

The Dark Side of Thailand...

12 year old sex slaves?  Why?!!!!!

Being in Thailand is like heaven to me.  I love how sweet the people are, how beautiful the beaches are, the food and street vendors, massages and motor bike exploring days... But the one thing that rips my heart out is the sex trafficking of young girls and women.  Seeing this first hand in 2006 when I came to Thailand with the World Race group, my heart was literally broken.  I cried for days.  I could never erase the photo memory of the young girls we seen in little string bikinis with numbers pinned on them clinging to a pole like it was their long lost mom.  

Here is the thing.  Thailand's industry is tourism.  They cater to tourist's in every way imaginable.  You can get a $10 massage anywhere.  You can rent a motorbike for a day for $5.  Fresh cut fruit on the streets costs a few cents.  Clothes, shoes, jewelry, handbags... its all available for a fraction of the cost.  This is a huge attraction for many visitors to this land of paradise.  Although these are some of the things I adore about this country, this blog is about the one thing that breaks my heart.

The fruit is so fresh and so cheap!  For a bag of cut up watermelon and pineapple, I think I paid 25 cents! 
I think every other shop in Thailand is a massage parlor/spa.  The women stand on the street trying to get every person who walks by to come into their salon.  These girls must be working a long shift because they do not look too happy! 

My favorite nights are when we grab ice cream and go sit on the beach to watch the sunset... its so beautiful!
TONS and tons of jewelry... its my dream and Marshall's nightmare!  I did buy a pair of earrings from this guy.  He was making them right in front of him!  Pretty cool! :)
Prostitution.  Lots of it.  And even worse, sex trafficking.  My issue isn't exactly with the girls who choose to wear next to nothing and cater to old men for money.  It's gross and disgusting and I will never understand it, but at least they are making that decision on their own. 

We sat at an Irish Pub and had dinner across the street and watched this girl try to hook man after man as they walked by.  

Very very common.  Sorry about the horrible photography!  I'm nervous to lift my camera to take pictures of these things because it seems like people are always on the lookout and ready to yell at you!


Waiting...
 My very serious issue and heart aches are for the young girls who are not making that decision on their own... but forced into it.  This girl in the next two pictures has had a permanent place in my mind the last few days.  We had gone out for dinner and were walking around and saw her.  It was blatantly obvious that she was trafficked.  She looked about 12 or 13.  Definitely not Thai.  She was horribly drugged up and completely out of it.  And she was locked in this room above the bars which is a sign that they need to keep the girls more or less hidden.  The majority of the prostitution is in front of you on the streets.  But the young girls who were trafficked are kept inside for customers wanting services and privacy.  The more they keep it hidden, the better it is.  This girl was like just kind of swaying around and trying to move but her eyes were like in another world and I felt at that instant that someone had punched me so hard in my stomach.

I didn't know what to do.  I wanted to try and "buy" her for the night and bring her home, hydrate her,let her have some sleep, and try to help her escape.  Marshall reminded me that this business kills people that mess with them.  I do know that, but I couldn't help the tears in my eyes knowing this was someone's baby girl.  I wondered about her story and how she got where she is.  If it was a family vacation and she was kidnapped.  If she was offered a modeling position and shipped out of her country.  I still cannot get her out of my mind and have googled missing girls that may have been trafficked to just maybe find a match.  These pictures are really blurry because a guy was yelling at me that I was not allowed to take pictures of her.   He also stopped my video after like 10 seconds, but you can kind of get an idea of how horrible this dirty industry is.


Where she is standing is like a glass box above all the bars... I am sure it connects into the brothels inside.


This is another picture of a trafficked girl locked in the box on the pole... If you look up, she is in the blue dress.  This picture gives you a better idea of what the set up is like.  We watched this girl for a few minutes and she was so out of it she barely moved from that position but just kind of swayed a little.  


Whenever Marshall and I would take a taxi somewhere, they would try and take us to a backstreet apartment where their buddies tip them off.  At these places, they want to take you upstairs to the trafficked girls for services.  It's shocking and horrific.  We never told him to go there, but one time he didn't listen to us and went anyways thinking we would maybe change our mind.  That is how we know what dirty tricks they try and pull over on people.

You also have the women who are working the men and leave their sweet babies on the streets to beg and care for themselves.  This was so devastating.  I so badly wanted to bring them home with us and put on some cartoons and give them something to eat.  So awful... :( 




 There is such a difference in the many ladyboy clubs, and strippers you see enjoying their time, and the others who have no option but to do what the men and women order them to do.  These pictures are of strippers and prostitutes...

This bar is a ladyboy bar meaning all the "girls" in here were originally boys.  Weird weird weird... and there are a TON in Thailand!

This is pretty much what all the bars are like...

These three are all ladyboys too...

You come across so many people on the street, men and women, all ages... trying to offer you these "shows."  They include the women and they have them perform all sorts of what they call entertainment.  You can buy a ping pong show, bottle show, horn show, ribbon, candle, and the list goes on.  This picture shows all the people standing in the streets trying to coax the tourists into their bars and brothels for these performances. 

We were walking down the street and saw a bunch of people crowding around this table.  It was a little performance by the lady boys... Crazy.


This is what the bars are like.  I really am bad at taking pictures and videos in these areas because I'm so afraid of the people around me.  You literally have eyes on you at all times and I dont exactly think I want to mess with them.


There is an organization in Thailand that is pretty awesome.  Some of our world race teams have worked with them.  They are called Nightlight Bangkok and they have rescued some of the girls out of the trafficking industry.  They teach them life skills as many have only known how to do one thing for the past few years.  They hold Bible studies with them to renew their hope in God and to help bring some light back into their lives.  And they also teach them how to make jewelry.  There are many precious stones in Thailand and they use them to make jewelry and sell all around the world.  People can host jewelry parties like the pampered chef style and help them sell their items.  It's a great organization and I highly recommend anyone interested to take a look at their website for some beautiful items!!  

Even though we have left the crazy area of the bars and girls, I still cannot stop thinking about that sweet young girl.  It's such an awful feeling being helpless against such a dangerous enemy.  We are reporting that club to the American Embassy because we know they file reports and can put pressure on the country to take action... but with police patrolling the streets and being all over, they obviously do not care or are being paid off in services.  

All I can do is trust.  Trust that God will protect that girl and redeem her.  Trust that He will help the many others who are being beaten, drugged, and raped when they should be playing with barbies and reading bedtime stories with their parents.  

It is a cruel and devastating world.  It's even worse when you witness something so awful firsthand.  I will be posting many more posts about our trip and I promise they will be more positive than this one!  I just had to share what is really going on here.  Hug your loved ones tonight one extra time for all the sweet kids who cannot. 

HUMAN TRAFFICKING: THE FACTS An estimated 2.5 million people are in forced labour (including sexual exploitation) at any given time
as a result of trafficking1 Of these:
o 1.4 million – 56% - are in Asia and the Pacific o
250,000 – 10% - are in Latin America and the Caribbean o
230,000 – 9.2% - are in the Middle East and Northern Africa 
o 130,000 – 5.2% - are in sub-Saharan countries o
270,000 – 10.8% - are in industrialized countries o
200,000 – 8% - are in countries in transition2

The Profits
Estimated global annual profits made from the exploitation of all trafficked forced labour are US$ 31.6 billion14


The Victims
The majority of trafficking victims are between 18 and 24 years of age5 An estimated 1.2 million children are trafficked each year6
95% of victims experienced physical or sexual violence during trafficking (based on data from selected European countries)7
43% of victims are used for forced commercial sexual exploitation, of whom 98 per cent are women and girls 

(These stats are from the UN.gift website)

These are some other facts about Sex Trafficking...

• • • •
A promise of a good job in another country A false marriage proposal turned into a bondage situation Being sold into the sex trade by parents, husbands, boyfriends Being kidnapped by traffickers

Sex traffickers frequently subject their victims to debt-bondage, an illegal practice in which the traffickers tell their victims that they owe money (often relating to the victims’ living expenses and transport into the country) and that they must pledge their personal services to repay the debt.

Sex traffickers use a variety of methods to “condition” their victims including starvation, confinement, beatings, physical abuse, rape, gang rape, threats of violence to the victims and the victims’ families, forced drug use and the threat of shaming their victims by revealing their activities to their family and their families’ friends.

Victims face numerous health risks. Physical risks include drug and alcohol addiction; physical injuries (broken bones, concussions, burns, vaginal/anal tearings); traumatic brain injury (TBI) resulting in memory loss, dizziness, headaches, numbness; sexually transmitted diseases (e.g., HIV/AIDS, gonorrhea, syphilis, UTIs, pubic lice); sterility, miscarriages, menstrual problems; other diseases (e.g., TB, hepatitis, malaria, pneumonia); and forced or coerced abortions.

Psychological harms include mind/body separation/disassociated ego states, shame, grief, fear, distrust, hatred of men, self-hatred, suicide, and suicidal thoughts. Victims are at risk for Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) – acute anxiety, depression, insomnia, physical hyper- alertness, self-loathing that is long-lasting and resistant to change (complex-PTSD).
Victims may also suffer from traumatic bonding – a form of coercive control in which the perpetrator instills in the victim fear as well as gratitude for being allowed to live.










Thursday, August 9, 2012

Buddhist Monk TIger Temple

The Buddhist Monk Tiger Temple

One of our day trips in Thailand included a stop at this tiger temple.  I've been to many zoos in my life and have seen animals in random places, but I couldn't have guessed what this trip actually entailed!


There were so many rules before you entered the temple.  They were for the Buddhist religion along with your personal safety from the tigers!  



The building behind this sign is where anyone desiring to become a monk comes to live and meditate.  All bad karma has to be undone and they have to have nothing but good karma in their past.  Our guide also told us they are not allowed to touch women, they can only eat once a day and the rest of the day they can only drink water, they are not allowed to touch money, and they are not supposed to wear shoes.  At this temple, each monk is also assigned to a tiger to train and meditate with.  The tigers are said to only respond to their monk.



Here we go!!



Here are a bunch of pictures of us with the tigers.  This first picture of Marshall is the only tiger that was actually chained to something.  The rest of them that we saw in the canyon have chains around their necks but are not hooked to anything!

This specific picture is when we were both still a little apprehensive about petting the tigers.  I made Marshall go first and when he first went up to this tiger it was laying down sleeping.  Then it sat up and started moving his head around.  Thank GOD it wasn't me.  I would have screamed for sure!



We watched a bunch of tigers play and I had fun snapping some pictures of them!




One of the options you could "buy" is to actually get inside and play with the tigers.  You would take a long stick that has this like blown up bag or something tied to the end.  Their were like 10 people who went inside and they would bang these bags on the ground to make a noise and the tigers would leap and jump towards them.  Each person had to have a guide with them, although when the tigers would go charging sometimes, the guides would scream and run too.  I am ok that we passed on this one!!



These pictures were inside the canyon.  We had to walk with a guide a certain way around the tigers, and we had to pet them firmly.  Apparently if you pet them too soft, it tickles them and they think you want to play.  Also they told us that wearing a skirt is bad because if it blows in the wind the tigers will think its a toy to chase after!  Ahhhh!  No thank you!!





There are 106 tigers in this temple!  The guide also told us that because the monks meditate and train them so well that the tigers just "pretend" to be sleeping half the time.  She told us it is like when you are little and would pretend to go to sleep, that the tigers do the same thing.  I asked if they ever bite people and she laughed and said yes, that does happen sometimes.  She said "It is a problem because they do not know their strength!"  Well no crap!  I am grateful that most of the tigers I petted were either sleeping or pretending!



This guys was HUGE!




They told me that I could touch this tiger's head.  That made me a little nervous too, but by the end I was feeling pretty brave! :)







Our guide was awesome and went and asked the monk if we could get our picture with him.  He told us to bend down and then he stood.  I am glad they told me that women are not allowed to touch him before.  Marshall asked if he could put his arm around him and the guide laughed and said oh no no no.  Guess not?!! :)  This is also one of the original monks in this temple who planned and orchestrated the building of this whole canyon for the tigers!



BBC news was also there doing a special!  :)



We really loved the whole trip and experience at this temple!!  I would definitely recommend it to anyone visiting Thailand!  It is like 3 hours outside of Bangkok but TOTALLY worth the trip!!

Here is a video of the tigers playing around!  XOXO






Tuesday, July 31, 2012

In the end... and then the beginning...

In the end... and the beginning...

We ended our time in Africa by going to a little local dive with some friends for a drink.  It sits right on the lagoon and at night has a great view!  There was supposed to be live music but for some reason they weren't playing that night.  So we just sat in the dark and had a few drinks and talked.  We decided to order one poulet to snack on and this is what we received!  It was pretty good!  We think they went to another restaurant to get it though because they didn't have any food at this one they told us! :)  When we were leaving we saw them cooking some chickens over a little fire outside so I'm guessing that is where ours came from too!


Thank goodness for a camera flash so you could actually see our food!  I turned my camera on and faced it towards the chicken so we could use the little bit of light to see what we were eating!  No plates or napkins either...just messy fingers!

Us sitting by the water

It was crazy when we would see cars that were covered in bullet holes from the war last year!  I am thankful to be out of war zones for awhile!!



Laundry day!!



And then it was finally time to say goodbye!  To our home for the last 5 months and great friends!



HELLO MALTA!!!

I am SO excited to be back in this beautiful country!  My friend Cyd and I went to lunch in this palace garden place and it is just so beautiful!!!  I had the BEST chicken BLT sandwich!  I am taking Marshall back there today because I have to have one more before we leave!!  I'll take a picture to show you on my next blog!  They also mixed like shredded lettuce with some sort of mayo/dressing sauce!  I will find out the recipe so we can all give it a try!



We feel sooo lucky to have such awesome friends!!  We missed everyone so much and are LOVING each moment we can spend together before we leave tomorrow!  We had a great night at our favorite sushi restaurant with lots of laughs and yummy drinks!!



I love this boy!  Check out his finger!!  CRAZY!! :)



 On Sunday we went to the beach.  Even though its the peak of summer, super packed, and crazy hot out, we still had a great day!  How could you not with these views from the beach!! :)



Malta has some of the most beautiful castles and churches and really old buildings!  I love just driving around to take in the view!  (Well as long as I am not driving...its too stressful here!)




My momma and sister are the BEST!  They both sent us such sweet care packages for our wedding/honeymoon!  Katy sent me some new books to read, fun toenail stuff, our favorite candy and snacks, and most importantly my soft lips chapstick!!!  My momma sent me this beautiful card and ring that has these little beads on it.  It's called a worry ring and when I get nervous I love to have something in my fingers to play with so it is PERFECT!  My momma also just sent us this box of sparklers for the beach after we get married, fun snacks, and a rope to do the fisherman's knot during the ceremony!  They are so great about making the boxes so fun to open with tissue and confetti too!  I kind of feel bad because I opened this box in the marine office and now they have pink and white heart confetti all over their floor! ;)



Marshall and I walked around Valletta yesterday and just took in how awesome of a city it is!  I love how "local" everything is and everyone is just relaxing and enjoying their days!  There are so many outdoor cafes offering fun little platters like this:



A trip would not be complete without checking out the view at the Upper Baracka Gardens!  It is the most amazing view of the Three Cities and the Grand Harbor!  We LOVE it here!  Although the heat made it easy to keep walking, we definitely love this spot!





Today we are finishing up some last minute things and tomorrow we are heading out to the BEAUTIFUL country of THAILAND!!!  We will be spending a few days in Bangkok, Phuket, and then 12 days in Koh Samui!  I can't wait to share all these cities with you guys!  I'm going to blog after each place so check back this weekend to see the first blog of the floating market and crazy Bangkok!!

Have a great week everyone!! XO